Ash and Breath Counseling · Jen Paluska, LMHCA
Counseling for betrayed partners navigating infidelity, sex addiction, betrayal trauma, addiction, and the moments when life stops making sense. Telehealth across Washington State.
Request a free 15-min consultHealing is not about forgetting what happened. It is about reclaiming who you are.
Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Who I Am
Jen Paluska is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate in Washington State, focusing in betrayal trauma for partners of sex addiction, pornography use, and infidelity. She is an Associate Sexual Addiction Therapist Candidate (ASAT-C) through the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), and has advanced training in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) through Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), the leading framework for treating partner betrayal trauma. She is also a Certified Spiritual Director trained with the Benedictine Sisters of Mount St. Scholastica, bringing a dual lens of clinical and contemplative practice to her work.
Jen has been part of recovery communities since she was seventeen. She understands firsthand the importance of a therapist who knows this ground from both directions, and she works with partners whose family systems have been shaped by addiction for generations as well as those navigating a recent discovery. Her approach is integrative, somatic, and trauma-informed, paced to what each person's nervous system can actually hold.
Jen provides individual counseling and spiritual direction via telehealth across Washington State and in-person sessions in Vancouver, Washington. Her work is grounded in the belief that what partners experience is a legitimate trauma response, and that healing is possible.
LMHCA, Washington State supervised by Heidi Kinsella · Associate Sexual Addiction Therapist-ASAT Candidate from International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP) · MPTM Trained through Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) · Certified Spiritual Director, Benedictine Sisters of Mount St. Scholastica · Advanced Training in the Enneagram and Holy Ideas with Russ Hudson · Focusing-Oriented Therapist trained · M.S. Psychology, Avila University · M.A. Human Factors & Applied Cognition, George Mason University · B.S. Psychology, Northern Arizona University
My Approach
What makes my practice distinctive is the integration of evidence-based clinical therapy with contemplative spiritual direction grounded in the APSATS and IITAP training, which honors your experience as a genuine trauma response.
All my work is rooted in trauma-informed principles: safety, trustworthiness, choice, collaboration, and empowerment. Healing happens at your pace, on your terms.
Your pain is real and valid. Advanced training through APSATS and IITAP brings both partner trauma and addiction expertise to your healing.
Drawing from contemplative traditions across faiths or none, I offer a spacious, unhurried presence that makes room for silence, uncertainty, and the deeper questions of life.
You are welcome here regardless of your faith tradition, gender, or sexual orientation.
Every session, every interaction is shaped by an understanding of how trauma lives in the body and the spirit, and what genuine recovery actually requires.
Begin
If any of this sounds like where you are, I'd like to hear from you. A free 15-minute consultation is a chance to talk and see if we're a good fit.